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Family and friends don't always agree

mamatee Posted at 16:27 on Fri, 09/19/2008
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My husband and I have supportive parents and some family members when it comes to our decision to adopt. Unfortunately, the rest of our family and friends aren't all supportive. Why do people get so involved in what is essentially our very personal decision? It seems that everyone has an opinion on what we should do or telling us that it's God's will that we don't have children. What? Why would this be God's will that I was injured and now can't carry a child myself? This just doesn't make sense to me. Others seem to think adoption is a bad thing and I can't figure this one out at all.

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hard to understand

admin Posted at 19:29 on Sat, 09/20/2008

I think people find something like adoption to be very intimidating and new. Most people are threatened by the introduction of something they're not used to and they react by not being supportive. But you have to stick to your guns and stand by what you believe in, otherwise you'll never do anything for fear of how others will react.

I will, believe me

mamatee Posted at 21:01 on Sun, 09/21/2008

I am not letting the naysayers influence my decision. This is something my husband and I completely agree upon and really want to do. I just can't understand why the negativity from people, that's all. I would have thought they would be happy for us and for the child that we will love. Instead, we're finding more that tend to be against it for whatever reason. The worst reaction has been the few that told me that we are going against God's will - I cannot believe that anyone would really believe such a thing.